We are a couple weeks into the New Year, and how many of you have already given up on your resolutions, reverting back to your old ways? Don't feel bad, it’s happened to me before as well. It's natural to want to stay in your comfort zone. Honestly, as I review the year that’s ending and set goals for the upcoming one, the end and beginning of the year are filled with a lot of emotions for me.
At the end of the year, especially 2016, we - myself included, tend to reflect on the things that went wrong. This could be losing a loved one, missing a great opportunity, or the reality of where you stand with your previous resolutions and goals.
Achieved it? Great! Didn't quite make it? You’re a failure. Or, at least, that’s what we beat into ourselves. Let’s be real. It's okay to not cross something off your list. Re-evaluate that goal and add it to the list for this year. Don’t make it too easy, though. You want to challenge yourself within reason. The moral to all of this, be conscious of how you feel and address your emotions accordingly. Simply ignoring them will not make things any better.
Now that we’ve reflected on the sadness of the past year, let’s look to the New Year. For me, this awakens another wave of feelings as I attempt to make resolutions for lofty goals in hopes of a better life. As I complete these statements about what I want to accomplish, I can’t help but look back at how precious last year was, realizing how much I accomplished and also, thinking about my expectations for this year. Sometimes this can be motivational and other times, it can have a paralyzing effect, making you want to give up before you’ve even started.
These emotions could be symptoms of depression or anxiety, but for this article, we will describe it as life. It’s okay to feel either way as we continue into this New Year, but please acknowledge these feelings and find ways to process them in order to move beyond them and enjoy them.
Stuck on the negative things of last year?
- Acknowledge the fact that you made it to the New Year.
- Try making a list of the things that went “right” last year.
- Find the lessons in the “bad” moments and turn them into teachable moments.
Nervous about the things ahead?
- Write out your goals and make a plan. If you need help, my bro Brandon Miller and I created something to assist with that. The Guide 2 Great: Be Great Why Eustressin!
- Focus on the things that you can control.
- Understand that everything will not be perfect and that some days will be tougher than others, but that you made through last year and can do the same thing this year as well.
No matter what problems or issues you encounter this year, don’t be ashamed to ask for help. I hope everyone has had a great start to the year and if not, you can always start over tomorrow. I promise I won’t judge you.